Gary Rabellizsa Jr

April 15, 2023 will forever be the most tragic day of our lives. My husband, my children’s father, our family’s protector, was taken from us, as a victim of gun violence.

I met Gary as a teenager, we spent 16 incredible years together, and from those years, had 6 children, including a hanai son, who loved, admired, and aspired to be just like him.

Gary was a family man, when he wasn’t working his 9-5 as a sheet metal fabricator, he spent his weekends gladly spending his time with his kids, whether it’d be taking them shopping, hiking in the mountains,fishing in the ocean, or simply taking a drive around the island to enjoy our beautiful lives.

Gary loved being a dad. He loved creating memories with them, he loved being their confidant, their provider, their voice of reason, but ultimately, he loved having so many reasons to be alive.

In the early hours of April 15, my husband was a victim of “wrong place, wrong time”, when he bravely inserted himself between two groups of men who had started an altercation amongst themselves. As a result of trying to keep the peace, my husband was fatally shot multiple times.

Gary meant the world to our family. He was respectful, kind hearted, loyal, & generous where he could afford to be. He was the kind of person, who could light up one room with his smile, and who’s laughter could be heard from the other. He was hardworking, and never asked anyone for anything, he enjoyed earning his keep, because he wanted to raise his boys to be strong , self sufficient men.

My heart is broken, knowing that my girls will be growing up in this cruel world without their protector, that my boys will have to pull guidance from others because they no longer have their dad to guide them through their teenage years and teach them how to be men. It pains me, when our toddlers are crying out for the man who they used to wake up & fall asleep with, knowing that, they’ll never make any new memories with him.

Gary was never someone who wanted to make any type of spectacle over himself, I’d always want to do things to celebrate him for his birthday, or Father’s Day, etc. but he’d never let me. He was incredibly humble and grateful for all the blessings he received throughout his life. Which is why, I’d like to give him a service, worthy of someone who gave everything, and asked for nothing in return.

Gary was the sole provider for our family, and as our family goes through this hard time, we can’t help but worry about the costs of holding his services. On behalf of myself, and our children-I humbly ask for any donations to not only help put my husband to rest, but to hold myself & our children over until we can get back onto our feet- being that he was our sole provider.

To my beautiful husband- I will never stop loving you.

These 16 years with you has taught me so much. I’ve been so blessed to have love and been loved by you, and I promise, I will remain strong, and be the anchor for our family as you once were. I LOVE YOU baby, you will always be the king of my existence & the love of my life, EVEN AFTER the wheels fall off my love.

XOXOXO